What we ALL need
- Aug 4, 2017
- 3 min read
Well, this is going to be one of the most controversial topics of mine, so I can expect any opposing view of you in this case.
So, when you get to treat kids or babies, you find yourself giving it all for the kid to make him/her happy, because your mind knows this kid needs the love you try to inject, so that you become able to construct the behaviour and inner self positively. Now the critical question that asks itself here: Does the need of love from people stops after childhood?
I bet, that most of people's answers will be (Yes!), as we will find most people urging for independence and that we shouldn't build our happiness on people and we shouldn't ask or beg people to love or stay for us, and that we must (and highlight must please) love ourselves first. But deep inside, whether you know it or not, is waaaaay different.
Psychology says that every mental state, from the child to the mature, needs to be loved subconsciously, which means it's a built-in feature in all humans. Most people tend to use many things that satisfy their needs, whether a favourite sport, a pet, music, anything that helps a person maintaining a cool self-esteem. This is not wrong of course, but let's add up one more thing used by people to enrich their needs, and unfortunately, it's people.
Have you ever asked yourself, why don't you find everyone (even a shallow friend) sticking to you till the end? It's down to only two reasons. Firstly, by general fact, people don't love a person because they are loving, but mainly because either they are loved the way they want, or they just get entertained by the good side of the person, and that's just good till a tough period occurs, you will find everything shattered in pieces then. The second reason, which is more of disaster, is that some people don't care from the basis, in other words social life is not a priority to them as themselves, and if they talked to a shallow friend or colleague, they are literally just spending time and literally the shallow friend plans talking and not them. An incident which can be put to end tho, they love when they find in the person what enriches their needs, yet again.
Is feeling loved or entertained by people wrong then? It's not in two conditions, if you are willing to give more than to earn (or as much as you earn, as you like), and to forgive them all if they didn't satisfy you. As much as you are willing to give love, you will (subconsciously) expect that same love in return, that's how a person should improve friendships, by giving and earning.
But the worst part of it, which mainly happens to me, is that by people's actions I think we are friends, while they don't see the same, and as Fady, I don't want to sacrifice anyone anymore just because he/she behaves differently than me, I just tend to convince them to give love or to be friends, because it can't be one sided, at some moment I might lose myself for earning nothing, and no one deserves this, but it rarely works, as expected to me.
Shame on the world for shrinking the love energy to babies and relationship mates, it can be to friends, to relatives, to colleagues, whatever the age, just give in a way that is applicable with the age, as simple as that, and think of what they want not what you want, you will definitely earn both ways, just give, and if you give more, or you give even you don't get the same in return, it's a pure sign of unselfish love.
Thank you for reading!
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