V vs V
- Jul 24, 2017
- 4 min read
Well, explaining the title I wrote, V vs V is also, in other words, Verbal vs Virtual. This refers to the endless debate between treating people verbally and treating them inside the internet zone, with each side having its pros and cons, which leads us to the moral question: What is the better V?
Speaking of talking to people verbally, verbally refers to whether the communication is done face to face, or through phone calls. This was the life before internet in a nutshell, when people knew how to express their emotions in full extent, and that every sentence and every word is clearly understood without confusion of: "Did the person mean this really or not?". Adding up to the other benefit is that socialising is waaaay easy when the person is used to the verbal technique, makes him/her having higher tendency to meet people, to know people, to hang out with his friends or talk to them by phone more than just texting. Both of these facts help in improving people's social life, but unfortunately it's generally only a dream now.
However, it's highly, highly confusing these days, especially in a boy-girl linkage, when drama began to settle in the scene. In other words, because social life is not as valuable as in the past, people are more likely to get bored from their friends, especially if this friend keeps providing big attention frequently, in addition of the feeling of pressure, and the misunderstandings that occur like: "He is flirting" "Of course he meant to upset me" and more sentences that led the love and the emotions to be vanished with the wind and with the time.
Give a child a social account on Facebook, how happy he/she will become. It's true, the social networking apps these days are more like a cigarette, leading many people, from children to teens to adults to be easily addicted to them. Thus, it's expected the chat boxes to be filled with endless texts and messages. It is proved that how easy it is, texting a person, you reply whenever you are free, and will protect you from anyone sticking his nose in no business as no voice is produced, adding up to the Facebook likes and comments, Twitter interactions, Instagram likes, Snapchat replies, that for some reason may help strengthening the linkages.
But, it's really really rare to see a person interacting emotionally to a text like in verbal interactions, plus the way the life becomes based on the social networking apps and not on real life, thinking if the person didn't like his picture for example, then they are not friends. Plus the block feature and ignorance of texts that led social life to be much harder and more harder to fix any conflict, as it is more inevitable to misunderstand a text because you don't know the other's emotions. Not to mention the emojis, the beautiful things of texts yet the most disastrous, because it might give the other side a wrong impression, especially with the use of hearts, kisses, heartful eyes, ":)" emojis that might lead an emotional person to misunderstand and another person to be dramatic, too.
Now back to the earlier moral question, what is the better V? Actually, there is no better V, and there will not be, because the common thing between the two "V"s is the lack of love and commitment. Sadly, many people are way focused on how their future will be bright whether it's a job or a dream come true, or how to entertain themselves, but there is not much much attention to people at first place unless they know them for toooooo long or they feel joyful with. But let's be honest, is there any person who can love even if no much talking or no much knowledge? Does anyone decide to be committed to anyone he/she knows even briefly? Does a boy and a girl hug or kiss each other unless they are in a relationship? No, the answer is always no, a big fat NO!
Unfortunately, it's hard to find someone wanting to initiate a friendship, people want to let things flow with the conversations they do, which isn't the base of any linkage, people don't choose to love, they just fall in the feeling by time, which happens only when they find a person with common interests, but this even never prevents the conflicts and the brawls as a result of the differences. Basically, people see choosing a friendship is a force, or a mask hiding a bad coming action like stealing or killing, or a relationship approach, while in mind we can guess a person with a bad intention when the person never fully loves which can be concluded from his actions, or just in case they are good actors, people can use defensive strategies like using electric material to hit when the DIRECT bad action happens(trying to steal, bringing teddy bears or valentine stuff), but people just get away without trying to know the truth, maybe the doubts in their minds might fall if they tried.
"If a person is meant to be a friend, he/she will be" This quote is highly destructing the world, letting them neglect the purity of love and the beauty of having a great social life. It might take long or infinity to convince, but just choose to love and to be committed to people you love, let their thoughts just pass like carbon dioxide to plants, and so are your actions, whether verbally, or virtually, love!
Thank you for reading!
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