What to follow
- Jul 4, 2017
- 3 min read
So, every person tends to follow - whether consciously or subconsciously - certain beliefs, values and norms, which dictate his/her lifestyle in certain patterns. That's why you'll never see people who are 100% similar. You might see differences in their behaviour, in their talking ways, in their clothes choice, in their entertainment factors and in their appeals or hobbies, all based on the factors that influenced them to behave in a certain way.
This indicates that every human being is highly affected by the world - accurately by people and electronics - and might surely see himself/herself driven by the initiated feelings that no one can control its existence, and that proves how people surrender most of their actions to what they feel so that they feel content. But let me ask the real question, what is better? following these feelings? or following the right?
Let's be honest, it's literally easier and more relaxing to do what we feel we want to do, and unfortunately, sometimes it drives us to the wrong direction, but what's worse, is not the wrong actions, but the actions that pretend to be right when it's only its mutation. In both cases then, who to blame? our feelings? Absolutely no! Here the blame goes to two, the society, and ourselves!
"What? Just never blame yourself, it's your right to do what you inner self begs you to, because you need to respect yourself not humiliating it" This sentence distorted many many right concepts, made them look confusing but not all realise. Basically, the above quotations represents one of the stereotypes - and highlight the word stereotypes - that the society influenced on our fragile inner selves, and the bad part of it, is that the stereotypes are followed, and the absolute right isn't.
So what is the absolute right? It's exactly what our Lord tells us to do, and what to build our identity and our behaviour on. Below you will find the obvious difference between the absolute right and the stereotypes.
Common Stereotypes:
Love is only a feeling, and if I don't feel it, then I can't highly trust you nor put you in my plans
I can be only a friend to people who we have a lot in common
What? How could you marry her? She's from a different social level, we are creme de la creme and they are poor, poooor!
Wear what catches their eyes
Love yourself more than anything else (as if this is not pride and arrogance)
Get away from anyone who makes you get out of comfort zone (as if people should be angels)
Behave like society to feel relaxed
What Is Right:
Love is a choice, decide to have a heart to people with no conditions
Respect the differences in people
Marriage is based on love and successful family plans
Wear what you WANT to wear (same applies on food, music and sports)
Love yourself, but with humility
Again, respect the differences in people!
Be different and unique, special people are so.
Shame we encounter a world that plants disrupted manners in people as the right manners, and another bad part of it is that people get it tough to accept that there is much more beauty in the absolute right, getting back to the point that it's easy to behave what we feel. Did you figure out why should we blame ourselves?
Thus, if you want to be successful and your life to be precious, follow the right direction, do what pleases your Lord first, then what pleases people, then yourself at last, all in your own way, noting that perseverance is an important key, because getting out of comfort zone is never relaxing in progress, but relieving in achievement, when you realise you are doing the right thing and in your own way.
Remember, special people faced tough obstacles in their route to the success they're living right now, you are not different from them, you just need pure will.
Thank you for reading!
P.S: As a human being I know I surrender to my feelings sometimes due to weakness, but I try to do my best.
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