The Real Problem

Imagine a life with no pain nor problems, a dream isn't it? We all know it, we are all encountering endless problems and challenges in our lives, no one can deny. Focusing more on the word "problem" drives us to only two types of problems, wanna discover?

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The first type I call it absolute, which means no one will come up with a different view other than seeing the issue as problem, like having shortness of breath so that you get tired easily, or the traffic jam, or the poverty, or even phobias. The initiated challenges here are hard, whether patience or pushing hard to the limits or taking a dangerous step, but at the end the person can be capable of overcoming these problems, even if he/she has 1% chance.

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Getting to the second type, well, that's the main topic today, is not always a problem, but based on the person's views, it can be, or it cannot be. In other words, for example the music, someone might regard listening to rock songs a wrong decision, while other person can get entertained from rock songs. But is that even a controversial problem? Don't worry, the real issues are coming.

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As most of you know about my social life stumbles, I am highly a misunderstood person, this is because many people took a negative impression of me at the beginning or during the linkages, based on actions they saw it unacceptable, like being excited for them and we don't know each other, like saying "I love you" to people even I don't have a relationship (as if friends doesn't love), well I know these statements and more, can seem weird to some people, but it's normal to feel some people's actions unacceptable, but what's not, the fact people don't 100% forgive, and that's why they see it a "problem"

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As if the person should be designed to favour everyone's needs. Come on! It's literally and definitely okay to find people's actions not appealing, if it's the way of speaking, the clothes style, the interests, the behaviour itself, but don't act like a judge and begin penalising the person eventually just because his/her actions don't suit your life, and if you can't forgive, face the person with what he/she done with no fear, I think it's way better than letting the issue grow up inside you and let you build up virtual walls between you and the other person, of course the person never meant to be against you.

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Unlike the absolute problems, the solutions are easy, but literally difficult to be applied, many people tend to hide their feelings and act like nothing happened while they are on fire inside, and the chance of the problem to grow inside is greater than destroying it inside, afraid to attack because they think they will hear harsh reactions or to keep their pride shining, they say "man, nothing happened" and you find the behaviour illustrating a different view, and what's worse, they will act like they did nothing wrong, as if this certain action is unacceptable, and the lies and the inability to forgive and inability to become courageous are acceptable.

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I'm not urging people to become dolls with no feelings, as I said, it's okay to feel irritated because you will not find a mirror image of you, but it's literally better to inform the person of the issue he/she made, and forgive afterwards, than letting the issue becoming bigger and bigger inside and you find yourself unable to forgive or to love again. Till now, it's rarely happening, and it is highly happening - in my dreams.

Thank you for reading!

N.B:

1- Forgiving never means overlooking and forgetting the issue instantly, it means you know what happened and the other knows yet no punishment occurs.

2- Only humiliating speeches might cause you to forgive but with a certain punishment so that it stops to avoid reoccurence of the same action and therefore loss of love and linkage. (Unless your actions brought the humiliation)